Spiritual Bypassing: The Messy Truth
I remember the first time I tried to meditate — it felt so awkward.
I was uncomfortable in my body, my mind wouldn’t shut up, and sitting still felt like an impossible task. But somehow, I stuck with it.
Because deep down, I knew: I needed change.
I needed something new.
I wanted to be better. I wanted to feel better.
That was almost seven years ago.
Fast forward to 2024, and I noticed something I wasn’t ready to admit:
I was using my spirituality to avoid my truth.
When life got messy, I turned to my “tools.” Meditation. Journaling. Cord-cutting rituals.
At first, they helped me survive. But then... they became my hiding place.
Instead of confronting what was coming up, I kept trying to “release it.”
Instead of asking why it kept knocking, I kept trying to let it go.
I wasn’t healing — I was bypassing.
I wasn’t grounding — I was escaping.
Change is hard. And I didn’t know then what I know now.
What I’ve learned over the past six months has changed everything:
The practices that once helped me grow became tools I used to avoid the real work.
I needed to get closer to my discomfort — not farther from it.
I needed to sit in the dark, not meditate into a false light.
In January of 2025, I signed up for an energy course that cracked me open.
It showed me how ungrounded I had become — because I was trying so hard to avoid my truth.
And that's the real messiness of life:
Even as a leader, I thought I could “outsmart” the pain with mindset work.
I thought if I just journaled hard enough, or meditated long enough, I could “fix it.”
But instead, my tools became my coping mechanisms.
I was spiritually bypassing — no different than popping an Advil to avoid pain, or grabbing a drink to numb out.
Bypassing is bypassing. It’s all the same shit.
When we refuse to feel what’s asking for our attention, we only feed it.
We bury it deeper until it grows so big that it explodes — in our relationships, our health, our dreams.
The universe wasn’t trying to punish me.
It was trying to wake me up.
But because I wasn’t listening, life just kept getting louder:
My health started to slip.
My sleep became restless.
My emotions boiled over quicker.
When we avoid, we abandon the exact step that could set us free.
I’ve spent most of 2025 alone — sitting with the feelings I avoided for nearly six years.
It’s not glamorous work.
It’s dark. It’s scary. It’s confronting. It’s lonely.
But it’s also where the gold is.
Today, I am more aligned with who I am — and who I want to become — than ever before.
Because I finally stopped running.
I needed a big change.
I wasn’t ready before.
But now I am.
Because I made space to sit with it all.
And now, I’m sharing this story with you —
in hopes that whatever keeps knocking in your life… you take the time to answer.
This is why I love coaching.
It’s this sacred hour carved out of the week where we get to show up with the messy, raw stuff.
We get to be held, heard, and hugged — and then called into alignment and action.
This path — this wild, messy path of self-discovery — is the greatest gift of my life.
It’s my divine pleasure to walk it with you.
If you’re ready to stop bypassing and start truly living — if you want someone in your corner who sees the gold inside you, and who has walked through the fire herself — email me.
Let's talk.
Because you can have the most abundant, beautiful life.
But you can't get there if you don't sit through some shit.
Journal Prompts for Reflection:
Where in my life am I using "self-care" or "spirituality" to avoid facing something deeper?
What emotions or patterns keep resurfacing, no matter how much I try to release them?
What might happen if, instead of trying to fix or heal it right away, I just made space to feel it?
P.S. Healing isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about finally facing yourself with love. If you're ready to do the brave work of seeing what's really there (and creating the life that's truly yours), I'd be honored to walk with you. Click here to connect. Use code: CLEAR25
